Believe In Yourself!

By: Smriti Sharma

Envisage your childhood as and when you move ahead with this written piece. Just visualize yourself as a toddler, exactly three years of age, wearing those small little shorts or skirts with matching shirts or tops. You saw the world as your parents did. You grew up under their guidance. 

Just then you stepped into the portals of your school where you met your batch mates. Some became friends and some turned out to be bygones. You saw the world like your teachers taught you to. You grew up under their supervision and regulation.

Just then you fell into a relationship where you met this girl or this guy whom you thought would be the one whom you wish to spend the rest of your life with. He told you not to talk with him and she told you not to talk with her. He asked you not to go there and she tried to stop you from going there. You grew up hurting yourself under his restrictions and her obligations.

Just then you are encircled in this marriage thing. Some have arranged marriages and some propose to have love marriages. You marry him or her and then your life is only about him and just about her.

Come on! Let’s be practical in here. Some might have already passed these phases and some might be on the verge of passing one and going into another and some might be living with one of these four phases. In all this recapitulation, did you see a change? When you grew up under the guidance of your parents, you were in a cocoon, they saved you from all the storms and predicaments coming your way & when you grew up under the supervision of your teachers, they molded you and taught you to consider every odd a challenge coming your way and to pass it with courage and confidence. 

Everyone pops into an affair, a relationship or a fling. Everyone has to get married one day. The former is touted to be the most common thing in today’s generation and the later is a fact that has to be accepted. Isn’t it? Now my point here, after all this visualization and the recapitulation is that we might have our own reservations to be sad or happy, we have gone through or are going through these phases. In all these mundane things, in all this drama, in all this hullabaloo, we tend to forget what we are? 

When your boyfriend tells you that you shouldn’t talk to that guy because he doesn’t like it, you do it. When your father tells you not to do a particular thing he doesn’t, like, do you abide by what he says? When your girlfriend tells you to buy her a gown for the prom or to take her for a ride, you do it. When your mother asks you to buy her the grocery or your sister asks you to watch a movie with her, you ignore, isn’t it? Give it a thought. When your husband tells you that he doesn’t want you to work because he is potent to feed the house, you agree. When your wife tells you she doesn’t want to live with your mother or sister, you try getting rid of them, isn’t it?

Why don’t you just do what you feel is right? This doesn’t mean that don’t listen to what your boyfriend or girlfriend says or don’t abide by what your husband or wife says, this exactly means that Believe in Yourself. When you will do what your heart says, nothing will go wrong. Your boyfriend will ask you not to speak to that guy, if it is seriously not worth it, you will end up scrapping the conversation with the guy or you’d explain why you don’t want to stop talking to him, if your guy is smart enough, he’d understand. If your father would ask you not to do a thing he doesn’t want you to, you will immediately put it off. If your girlfriend asks you to take her on a drive, you will, if only its suitable or you’ll make her understand, she would if she’s smart enough. If your mother asks you for groceries, you’ll get them for her and take your sister to a movie. If your husband says that he doesn't want you to work, explain it to him that your parents put in all the money, not for you just to feed your husband and his family but also, to create your own identity, if he's smart he would understand. If your wife says she cannot live with your mother or sister, tell her to deal with it and mend her ways, she would if she deserves you.

Don’t tend to forget your priorities, just because you are connected with that one person. Again recapitulate, how wonderful your childhood was, when your parents taught you to be yourself, when your teachers taught you to have confidence and sail through the odds. This is a materialistic world, you have come alone and you die alone. There isn’t a “baby” or a “honey” dying along with you. This isn’t a fairy tale nor is it a reel life, it’s a reality that doesn’t correspond to dreams. Dream big, but live practically. Believe in Yourself and you will cross all the oceans happily. Life isn’t a Karan Johar film or a Yash Raj script where everything is true and pure, there is lots more to it. Love but practically, trust but sensibly and expect but logically. Get acquainted with the facts and wake up, this is Life!